When people claim that I don’t “support” my husband or I’m just “using him” because I CHOSE to stay at home and become a housespouse. What is so wrong with cooking all his meals, doing all the housework, running errands while he’s working, taking care of our finances, taking care of him when he’s sick, upset, or any other emotion, etc? And when we adopt our children, I’ll be staying at home with them too, and taking care of them just as I take care of my husband. There is no shame in supporting your spouse from at home.
Nobody has the right to tell me or him what will work in our relationship. We like how things are set up for us and we have a great marriage. This setup works for us, and we’ve already planned out everything in the event I need to get a job (we split my current responsibilities evenly), or in the event he loses his, etc.
We are both very happy in our marriage, and have plans for our futures. Even if I block out the haters, they’ll still be there, and there’s no reason for them to even question our marriage just because I don’t have a paying job like he does.